New Toy

I was wandering through Spencer's the other day (Oh Spencers. How amusing your toy sections are, how ridiculous, how useless, how lusty).

I've bought some nice things from Spencer's over the years...a vibrator set, a couple pairs of cuffs, a nice rubber whip, and various other novelties like keychains, and those "love dice" things.

It's a novelty shop, so I'm always suspicious of what I just handed over my money for. I don't know if that's because of any particular disappointment (maybe lingering sadness at how easy I can escape aforementioned cuffs?) or not, but for some reason I always expect the worst.

Anyway, here is the new toy...a Cat o' Nine Tails!





I'm pleased to report, that after a mere playful over-the-shirt flogging, that thing is FAR more substantial than it looks. I mean, OUCH.

---Him

Not Dead Yet!

Just a quick note to let anyone who's curious know we're not quite dead yet.



Just busy with life, for the most part. Not a lot of kink. Or sex. Or much of anything, to be honest.



But that'll work itself out.



Now excuse me, it's time to get back to cleaning.



---Him

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Mid Week Weekend Report

Howdy hey everyone,

Since She covered some of our fun but not all of it, I guess it's a subtle way of leaving me something to blog about.

I was over on the bed reading and feeling a bit frisky, in a terribly subby kinky sort of way. She was over on the couch, watching TV. Since we were already not really hanging out together, I slipped out of my clothes, then out of bed.

After a hug and a quick snuggle... "Do you think you could tie me up?" It's still pretty hard to verbalize desires like that...but I'm getting better.

She didn't make much of a reply, so I just kept on snuggling her from the floor. After a few minutes, she decided. "Go lay down. I'll be right there."

I did as I was told, and first came the fuzzy cuffs...



and then she climbed over to strap on the velcro cuffs...



and then she left me to stew for a while.



Yep, those ARE clothespins you see. They didn't hurt very much going on...but...after a while, they really weren't pleasant.

In fact, after a undetermined period of time I was uncuffed and set to cleaning the kitchen. At that point, between the time in clothespins and the extra movement...my nipples were in sheer agony. This led to a minor temper outburst *ashamed* but I did manage to get the kitchen done before getting let loose.





Nipple play is fun, because as erotic as it is...I can't say I enjoy it, lol.

Big lesson of the day? Speak up before the situation makes me lose my cool...

---Him

Man Spanking Girl

It has been far too long since He spanked me. We had been discussing our needs and wants lately, which resulted in a lovely spanking for me almost immediately after I woke up. It wasn't vicious but it was nice and warming.



I was squirming and wriggling under his hand with every blow. Leaning to the left, He would promptly give my right cheek a firm *SMACK*. Leaning to the left, He'd slap the left cheek. He used the slapper (pictured above), ping pong paddle, wooden spoon (MAN I HATE that one!!), and flogger. I don't so much mind the flogger. It actually feels kind of nice. The light little rubber strings stinging my bottom. Periodically a curse word would leave my lips, which prompted harder smacks from Him to correct my foul language. From then on I used "C'mon!" several times. He acted like He didn't know.. Sexy, but.. ultimately frustrating!

I had expressed to Him that I was really craving more play time with Him on top. For the past month or so it had been strictly me on top. This is fun, but it leaves me wanting more. I was beginning to feel like Domming was a chore.

We were in need of a change. So we discussed everything and decided on a few things. We need to work on expressing our needs and wants on a more frequent basis. It was getting to the point where He would want a spanking but wouldn't tell me about it. Or He'd want play time but wouldn't express it. So things continued to build until we had a little chat about it. We've worked things out and are going to be committing more time to playtime and making love.

Look for a new post soon from either of us with photos of our last play session. Him tied up on the bed, clothespins on the nipples, completely naked. Quite sexy if you ask me.

Here's to healthy lifestyles!
-Her

MBS Spanko Brunch, on Cravings and Fulfillment

The topic this week over at My Bottom Smarts? "How often do people crave spankings and how often are they spanked?"

This really is a great question. I know personally, the craving hits at least once a day. Sometimes it's hard to narrow it down to just a specific craving...the thought of having my rear well-smacked just sits and simmers on the burner all day.

I almost wish I knew why this was the case, just like I almost wish I knew why I like much of what I like. I don't think there are any particular triggers to the cravings for me. The spanking urge happens to be just like any other: It's fun, so I wanna do it.

Now for the sad part of the story: we only manage to play about once every two weeks or so. It's complicated as to why we don't spank more often, but I think it can boil down to a lack of focus: There's just so much else going on in our lives it's hard to fit sex in, never mind extras.

As for Her, I can't speak for much. I do know she just had a sound thrashing yesterday *evil grin* we both enjoyed. It'd been far too long since I'd spanked Her, and as part of our recent discussions on needs and wants (post should be coming soon) we're thinking about getting into more of a spanking routine.

Bottom line? I think we both crave it much more than we get it, and it's time to see about fixing that!

---Him

No Spanking

So, the spanking I'd mentioned didn't happen.

That's sad. And it hurts a lil, since there was a promise involved.

And it's frustrating, 'cause my bum really likes being whacked. And in my humble, submissive opinion it doesn't happen enough.

At the same time? I totally understand Her not being in the mood. I've been there. And even just as a guy screwing a girl, I wouldn't want Her to do something she didn't want to.

As a sub, I'm a lil thrilled she's comfortable enough saying, "No, I'm not in the mood. I know you really want it, but you're not getting it. Sorry."

It's hard tho, so hard. For a variety of reasons, we haven't been making love very often. Or having any sort of playtime. And...it's tough. I like playtime, ending in sex or not. The fact that she hasn't been in the mood is trying.

But...this is good, in a way. I AM the submissive. I DID agree to let her moods and preferences have priority. And that includes the non-sexy stuff, and the downright unhappy stuff. One of my goals in submitting to Her is to make it more 24/7, more about the little things throughout our lives, and not only "Yes Mistress" during sex.

It's hard, and sometimes she's not comfortable pushing me to remember this goal. This is a perfect chance to practice tamping down my own desires and know she's not likely to give up just to stop me from being a lil pouty.

It's humbling to going to bed horny and unsatisfied, and realize it's more than a little nice.

---Him