Switch Deluxe

Hi all. I've got an interesting development in our relationship to relay to everyone. Essentially, I've taken on the role as the primary submissive in the relationship.

We had a running conversation over the last couple weeks about submission and dominance. I've been feeling more frisky lately, and been frustrated when my attempts to dom her ended up with me pissed at such a disobediant brat and her frustrated that I'm not pushing her buttons very well.

She's also been gradually putting her foot down more, being more dominant in situations where she wants her way. Somewhere along the way she realized I was more than happy to obey her when she got all bossy with me. Even if that meant taking the lead in bed (not always my favorite).

Early last week, I kept making hints and asking permission for things during a chat. The results were amazing, in my eyes. She took right over from me, becoming micro-managing, demanding, and not allowing me any sexual relief. This put me into 7th heaven, since I don't get this sort of treatment from my sugar very often. The tighter she held onto control (forbidding me to look at other girls, keeping a notebook of infractions, sending me to bed, making me get up at a certain time) the deeper I went into sub-space.

Until we had a long chat one day in which I confessed how much I enjoyed and craved submitting to her. How much I liked her having the final say over things, how I liked knowing I was accountable to her. She told me while she enjoyed being dominated in bed, it drove her insane to have to obey someone else's orders. And how "fun" she found bossing me around.

So...the tentative arrangement was me submitting to her in general, full time. While nothing changes too much in our ordinary way of things, she does get final say. I'm obligated to listen to her instructions more closely. The "no looking" rule has been made permanent, and I'm not allowed to touch myself without her permission (and not allowed to ask for it either!).

I know there will be plenty of times she will need me to take the lead, and I embrace that as much as I embrace having to explain why I spent time looking at a classmate's feet. However, I feel so good about my new role, so happy that she official has control over me. The day after this arrangement I woke up so turned on...and so thrilled I had to control myself and stay horny for her.

I only hope I can make this as pleasurable for her as it is for me!

---Him

Ohio Voters...

Get out and vote on State Issue 1, if nothing else. This is the bill designed to limit sexually oriented business activity in the state, such as strip clubs and toy and video stores, by closing them down between midnight and 6am. The other main provision is criminalizing physical contact between dancers and patrons and employees of strip clubs.

I personally find this unnecessary on both counts, and simply a step towards criminalizing adult entertainment in the state. I don't want to think about what could be regulated next if this bill passes...

And if you agree with the bill? Go vote for it. At least make it known you're paying attention to what they're doing in Columbus. Don't let the legislature think it works in a vacuum.

Go find the actual language and your voting station, etc, at Smart Voter.org

---Him

Punishment Time

I'm not a huge fan of punishment, as a general rule. I'm idealistic in the sense that everyone should be doing what they should be doing because if they don't, then why do it at all? So not a lot of energy goes into my "normal" activities in regard to punishing people.



That's totally beside the point when it comes to her, however. Being quite a bit of the sub myself, I very much understand misbehaving just to get a rise out of the rule maker. I also understand how disappointing it is to not get punished, or to be threatened with a punishment that never materializes.



That'll happen occaisonally in bed, when in passionate moments she'll threaten to paddle me aftewards if X doesn't happen (usually my little buddy not wanting to stand up and play). Those sort of comments used to have an effect on me...but lately, I can just shrug them off since I've yet to experience the post-coitus punishment.



But no matter. Recently, there were some issues regarding our long standing rule about getting permission before she can visit with any her friends. She grew angry, and I knew she'd need to be punished. For a variety of reasons, that punishment was slow to arrive...busy at work, not wanting to use time together for BDSM...whatever. It happens, no hard feelings.



But while I was waiting for ample opportunities to give her what-for, she had taken to casual little defiances. She went out to lunch with a friend without even telling me about it, never mind getting permission first. She'd be mouthy. She'd taunt me whenever I mentioned her impending punishment. All in all, she was doing her best to piss me off. And not in any sexy, "Oh no lil boy, I'm the one in charge" sort of way. In a pain in the ass kind of way.



So when she came down, one of the first things I did was strip her naked, lay her on the bed, and spank her soundly. Here's a shot about halfway through...







Which is about where it stopped being fun for her, which was the whole point. I was really not happy with the way she'd been taunting me, and gave her very much what she had been asking for for literally weeks. By the time I was done scolding her, smacking her, making her cry out and wail, I got her to admit I'd been much worse than she expected.



Here's how she looked after I'd finished...







Not too shabby, if I do say so myself. Tho I do wish I'd kept going a bit longer...

---Him

Helpless Boy

Yes, this was my man a couple weeks ago when I decided to clip on some clothespins and have my fun with him. Cuffing him to the headboard, he took everything oh so well. I was so proud. Even while I was riding him and leaning down applying pressure to his clipped nipples, he was such a good boy. I enjoyed taking control that night.

I'm down visiting him for a couple days for his birthday. Tomorrow he's apparently going to be turning me into a mess and taking photos of ME. Yikes. I'm kind of scared but kind of exhilarated.

Just so you all know, my first story I've been paid to write has been posted in the members section of my friends' website that I've linked several times on here. They posted it just a couple days and I'm super excited about it. They've got me on assignment writing a halloween themed story for this month. We'll see.

Please be thinking good thoughts for my poor ass.

Here's to healthy lifestyles.

-Her

Blah

So...I'm a lil annoyed at the moment. She just chewed my hiney out for not sticking to pushups, or getting this post done earlier in the day. This is where my sub side goes to war with my "I just wanna do what I want" side.

It's tricky, too. I try to build myself into a dom role to handle her the way she likes...but then it backfires when her "I want things my way" side flares up, and I'm not exactly able to fight off her instructions. Aggravating.

This past week when she visited, I jumped her just about right away. I took her upstairs and tied her to my bed, having her suck me before I fucked her fast and hard, totally taking her for my pleasure. Then I left her, still cuffed to the bed, and went back to work. She freed herself, of course...and that was all there was to it.

We had some fun the next two days, her taking the lead mostly in bed. I was ridden quite a bit, which I've discovered is my favorite position. I was even tied up to the bed, clothespinned, during one of those rounds. THAT was an intense event.

I'm vaguely puzzled by continuing trouble getting hard for her in missionary or doggie positions. I don't understand the problem...or even if there is one. Either way, I think we have our fun.

Till next time...

---Him

I know, I know

I've been letting all of you down with me not posting anything. Recently I started a 2nd job that was sucking up all of my spare time apart from sleeping and seeing Him. I decided, for many reasons, to quit that job, so I will be having a lot more opportunity to write here and elsewhere. Just so you all know, I will be writing stories for www.pinktoxins.com as a part of the staff on that website, so if you're at all interested in what that site has to offer, make sure to become a member so you can read all of my stories!

We've both been busy, as well, so our kink hasn't had much of a chance to come out when we've been together, but I went to see him last week and I got a pleasant surprise. He decided one morning to almost immediately tie me up and have his fun with me. It was incredibly erotic and exciting. I was dying for him to put my ball gag in the whole time, however. He made sure to move up and let me suck on him while I was all tied up though, and that was absolutely amazing. He didn't do it for long, though, so I was left wanting more of that. I have discovered I enjoy giving oral quite a lot. Especially when my hands are bound and I can't help but have my face fucked. How exciting!

Today He said He wasn't feeling up to much of anything, but miraculously he started being very Dom! I was pleasantly surprised and made sure to be obedient for Him today. Although, when I asked Him if I could go see a friend about some business matters, He was unsure and told me He wanted several things done tonight and that He was going to be home a little later because of an errand and hanging out with a friend. I asked what friend and I got the name of a friend I hadn't heard of before. When I questioned Him, He responded with "maybe I'll tell you later", which really ticked me off, and I can't explain why! So I told Him I was going without permission, and I know I will be in trouble, but I can handle the consequences of my actions.

To be honest, when I rolled over asking Him to stop spanking me I wanted him to tie me down and keep going. He didn't, but I think He might in the future. I hope so. I've told him I've considered giving up my safe word.

Here's to healthy lifestyles.
-Her

(I'm a) Bad Boy

I'm sitting here hard as a rock and having no idea when my next climax is gonna be. I'm loving AND hating this all at once, but I know I totally deserve it.

For the second time I disobeyed her very simple directions. After leaving her, I was told to go home and jerk off right away. I failed to do this twice in the same week...once Monday, and once Thursday. The first time, I was kept pent up for a day to teach me a lesson. It obviously didn't work, because I let myself get distracted again Thursday.

I feel bad, because I simply forgot. It was awful of me to forget her very simple direction. To let it slip my mind completely. I so deserve the frustration I'm in now, and the sub in me hopes she doesn't cut me any slack.

She's very busy at work for the next few days, same days that I'm off. This has the double effect of keeping me horny when I've got the chance to jerk off, and also while she's away. I hate being frustrated, wanting to play, and knowing she's not able. It's a very fitting punishment whether intended or not.

I'm humiliated at being punished like a lil kid, but loving it as well. I really WANT to learn my lesson and be a good boy...just...maybe in not such a torturous way?

---Him